Is Monogamy A Myth in This Technology Driven Era?

Monogamy – The practice or state of having an emotional and/or sexual relationship with only one partner. Essentially it means to be devoted to only one person in emotions and the physical. So 2 people meet, they have chemistry, fall in love and decide to do life together. Monogamy is a traditional ideal in various societies, yet many people in these societies are not monogamous. Do you think that it’s possible for 2 people to be together…

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Permanent and Perfect Contentment Is An Illusion

Contentment –  Happiness with one’s situation in life Contentment – The state of mind you reach when you look at your life in all it’s imperfection, and say “good enough”. Have you ever met any 1 person that felt like they had every single thing they could ever desire and they were completely content with life? Well me neither. I believe that no matter how much one has attained in life, there is still room…

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Book of The Week!

I’m still on my mission to read 2 books a week. Although this week has been a slow book reading week; i have started 2 books which are actually very similar but also quite different. I’ve only managed to finish one of the books so far. 1. Lilith by J.R Salamanca – Lilith was published in 1961. It explores mental illness, sexuality, love and madness. The classic case of wanting the impossible, personal suffering and sacrifice…

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Why Happiness is a personal choice.

  “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy” Happiness in its own definition is a ‘state’. State is termed as ‘the particular condition that someone or something is in at a specific time.’ So by definition; happiness is not a destination or a perfect ending we all so desperately seek. We are often on the pursuit of happiness but we rarely…

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10 THINGS I LEARNT FROM FAILING AT MY DREAM

    Hi my name is Nwando and I’m a dreamer. I’ve always been a dreamer. From the days I was a child I was restless with the thought of being ordinary. The one thing that irks me the most is mediocrity. I romanticized everything. Everything had a greater meaning and a truer purpose. The sun never was ordinary, the moon, the stars all had purpose and depth, love was never basic. I always wanted…

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Why HOPE ‘can’ be Unhealthy

Hope – “An optimistic attitude of mind based on an expectation of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large” Hope – “The feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best” As humans/spiritual beings; we often cling on to hope more than anything and we base our happiness on the outcome of our hope. How many times have you…

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VALENTINE’S DAY MUSING

In the spirit of St. Valentine’s Day i’m writing about love. Valentines Day is a day most lovers (faithful ones) look forward to and single people dread. It is a reminder of love & renewed vows for those in relationships and for those single ones it is a reminder of how alone you are. Today i’m reaffirming my decision to love myself more and more and stop looking for validation/identity/acceptance in a significant other. I…

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BOOKS OF THE WEEK!!!

I gave up TV/Movies/TV Series for the next 4 weeks because i’m trying to focus more on the things that lead to growth in my personal life so I promised myself i would read more books. It’s not enough to give up one vice, you must replace it with something that has a positive effect. I’m trying to read 2 books a week so if anyone has any recommendations please feel free to drop in…

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Mr Death.

It’s been 1,103 days since my elder sister passed away in an unfortunate and unnecessary car accident. It’s caused me to think about death a lot recently. I call him Mr Death (I just know death must be a man without a face) I’ve been having dark thoughts lately. Imaginations you may call it. I imagine driving out and crashing and burning. I imagine saying goodbye to a loved one and never seeing them again…

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UNPRODUCTIVELY BUSY

I came across this quote by Henry David Thoreau and it makes so much sense to me. Some days i’m incredibly busy from dawn till dusk but at the end of the day i couldn’t account for anything that i had done of great value. It’s not enough to work very hard without working smart; you will find yourself stuck in a rut and so frustrated because you will see no real growth or change…

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